Patience Pays

If you have some time, go back and read some of the first posts I made when starting this blog. In my second post I wrote:

My goal is to attend a social nudist event soon, and hopefully I will convince my wife to come along, preferably a swim. I have sent several e-mail inquiries to a couple of local groups, but have yet to receive an answer.

That was three years ago. As time has passed, this blog has gravitated from a personal diary to somewhat of a running commentary on the political and social ramifications of nudity. One of the reasons I stopped the personal posts was simply because there was nothing noteworthy to blog about.

But yesterday was a real milestone. After living with a nudist husband for three years, my wife finally went with me to a naturist venue, and I am very happy to say that she loved the experience, and is eager to go again.

She says that it was easy getting naked, but the worst part was walking from the car to the pool, but that anxiety soon passed. She says that laying nude in the sun beside a pool on a gorgeous summer's day was one of the most relaxing experiences she ever had.

I told her time and time again that I would never insist that she join me at naturist events, and that it would make no difference in our marriage. Wisely, she allowed me to go by myself, trusting that my motivations in seeking out my nudist needs were unrelated to our relationship. This was more about me than about us. In return, I never applied any pressure that she go along.

Once, about a year ago, she said that she was thinking about going with me to a local naturist swim, but due to various reasons it never happened. In hindsight, that was a very good thing, because the gender imbalance of the local swims would likely have proved uncomfortable for her, and when she met the club president she found him to be a little "creepy".

So when I made a male friend at a visit to a landed club, we began talking about the women in our lives. Turns out he had a girlfriend who was willing but reluctant, much like my wife. We decided to ask our respective partners if they would like to meet, and perhaps from there pursue a joint first time experience for the two women.

It sounds a little devious, but all intentions were sincere. We made it clear that if the women were to accompany us to a resort, it would be because they wanted to do it for themselves, and not for us. As it turns out, they liked each other, were receptive to the idea, and we all agreed to go.

It was the right time, the right place, and the right company. Being patient for the optimum opportunity paid off for all four of us.

My wife and I have also told our daughter about our visit, as well as a couple of friends, with very positive reactions. It turns out that we might have a couple of more people who want to tag along with us the next time. This is the heart of the dilemma faced by most nudists and naturists, that we strongly believe that the nude human body is good, and that there is no reason for shame, yet most of us hide our lifestyle from family, friends and co-workers. I fully realize that not everyone is as lucky as me when it comes to revealing naturist tendencies, so people need to think hard before they make these personal decisions.

Deep down I believe that everybody wants to experience the freedom of naturism, but that our social and religious traditions and teachings are very powerful obstacles to overcome. I applaud the courage of my wife, and my friend's girlfriend, for having enough trust and faith to leap over those hurdles, and shed some of those old false fears and beliefs.

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